About Caffyn

Caffyn Jesse is a queer elder, sacred intimate, teacher and writer who revels in the power and pleasures of the erotic. They are a renowned teacher of sex, intimacy and healing trauma with pleasure. Encouraging neuroplastic change to support sexual healing and expanded pleasure, unwinding sexual trauma, exploring the intersection of sex and spirit, creating erotic community are all core to their work and play. Caffyn is a tireless advocate of embodied love.

Caffyn offers an online program on The Art and Science of Sacred Intimacy. They host regular “office hours” where you can meet, connect and ask questions. They also offer a program on psychedelic medicine integration.

You can Follow Caffyn on Facebook or subscribe to her BLOG.  To contact Caffyn you can email caffyn . j @ gmail . com or use this contact form.

Caffyn explores a weave of Psychedelic Medicine, Somatic Sexual Wellness, Queer Ecology and Transformative Justice. Their  many books include Ecstatic Belonging, Love and Death in a Queer Universe, Elements of Intimacy, Sensual Man, Science for Sexual Happiness, Intimacy Educator: Teaching with Touch,  Orientation: Mapping Queer Meanings and Pelvic Pain Clinic.

Caffyn taught for many years at the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education, as well as offering workshops on topics ranging from pelvic pain to sex in long-term relationships, and a trauma training for professionals who touch.


“You have and still remain a guiding light, a profound love - across dimensions and illusions of time and space - and a beacon of remembering 'what we are.' In me, You are a Calling Home.”
Mari Abraham
“You opened up a new doorway for me, about how I could be, what my life, my world and my community could look like. You are so powerful, so special - you show me what it means to be a teacher: fallible, full of flaws, and full of beauty, truth and power.”
Kai Cheng Thom
“You are a fiercely loving powerhouse of change and remembering - of the body, stories and erotic wisdom.”
Solanna Anderson
“It is especially important to me personally that you are holding a torch for erotic wellbeing and authentic sexual expression. It is so rare to know an elder who carries wisdom and hope to heal one of humanity's deepest shadows.”
Nijlan Rosalia Bastet
“I couldn't be more grateful for the grace, kindness, love, acceptance and empowerment that I've been shown and taught. I am left speechless when I contemplate the life I've lived before this work, and the massive change and transformation I've found as a result of engaging with this paradigm of relationship with my self and other selves. So thank you, from the depths of my soul, for being you, and sharing you.”
David M