This 15-minute “Breath and Energy Orgasm” meditation comes from my early days in the field, when I was first discovering and developing the practices that helped me feel my own erotic aliveness as a path of empowerment and joy. Lots of folks have told me that listening to this meditation has helped them amplify their own erotic aliveness, and enjoy their first energy orgasm.
I came to the work of sacred intimacy by following my own healing path, while thinking I was irrevocably broken, screwed-up and unworthy. In the wake of trauma and neglect, my sexual aliveness was shut down, or it arrived in unwanted and obsessive forms. I had impaired connection with mind, body, spirit and emotions. I listened to the voices in my head. Various talk therapies had done little to shift my sense of wellbeing or help me build capacity for joyful sexuality. But when I found my way to the world of sacred intimacy, and the path learning through body-based exercises and experiences, I grew a lived understanding of unconscious nervous system function. I learned to hold my confusion with compassion, embody the changes I longed for, and coach clients to do this for themselves.
A good first step in reclaiming erotic pleasure is cultivating a sense of celebration for all the ways erotic energy shows up in us. We can learn to welcome the feeling of sexual energy without judging it or needing to act on it. Erotic energy is life-force energy, sacred and innocent, powerful and magnificent. This meditation is about playing with sexual energy – something so few of us have been encouraged to do. We can expand into what is possible for us erotically, when we can explore cultivating erotic feeling playfully, at a pace that is just right for us. With curiosity and without compulsion, we can practice noticing when and how we want to invite erotic energy into our bodies and our lives. As we learn to play with this energy, we can also learn to have more choice about how to access it, what to do with it, who to play with and how to play.