Intimacy Educator: Teaching with Touch

Intimacy Educator: Teaching with Touch


It is your birthright to live a life filled with erotic joy. This book will guide you through insights and somatic practices that can heal trauma and neglect, foster resilience, and help us cultivate joy in our bodies, in our intimate relationships, and in the world. This book can be used to support individual healing and well-being, relational wellness, and professional development for those called to work as “Sacred Intimates“.

You will learn about sexual healing, erotic energy cultivation, and sensual and erotic massage. Caffyn Jesse gives stroke-by-stroke instructions for pleasuring diverse genital structures. Chapters on orgasm coaching will vastly expand your orgasmic capacities.

Caffyn’s toolbox includes techniques ranging from scar tissue healing to spanking. Beautiful illustrations show the specifics of pelvic, genital and anal anatomy. Powerful practices guide you in awakening the full potential of your sexuality. With reflections on social oppressions that harm us in diverse, intersecting ways, Caffyn also explores the relevance of sexual healing to social transformation.


Teaching through touch, Sacred Intimates can provide an ideal environment for healing and learning about sex. But without appropriate safeguards and clear boundaries, somatic practices can retraumatize already wounded people. Caffyn Jesse offers vital guidance on the ethics of practice.

“This is a brilliant and clearly written book by one of the most experienced practitioners of Sexological Bodywork and Somatic Sex Education. Caffyn Jesse has produced an authoritative guide…. It is a must-read for all who want to awaken the potential for joy we have in our bodies.”

– Pamela Madsen, author of Shameless, founder of Back to the Body Retreats for Women

This book is an updated version (2020) of work previously published as Erotic Massage for Healing and Pleasure (2015). It is a textbook for the Somatic Sex Education Professional Training, and for Caffyn’s own online program on the Art and Science of Sacred Intimacy.